Could My Spouse or Close Relative Be Narcissistic?

It’s natural to wonder if someone you love shows narcissistic traits. Here’s how to gauge it—and what you can do:

1. Key Behaviors to Watch

   
   • Always steering conversations back to themselves
   • Dismissing or minimizing your feelings
   • Constant need for praise or special treatment
   • Reacting with rage or sulking when “criticized”
   • Envying others or belittling their achievements

2. Impact on You

   
   • Feeling unheard, undervalued, or guilty
   • Walking on eggshells to avoid outbursts
   • Erosion of your self-esteem over time
   • Strained family dynamics and chronic stress

3. Quick Self-Check Questions

   
   • Do they rarely show genuine empathy?
   • Are they obsessed with status, appearance, or success?
   • Do they blame you or others for their problems?
   • Is affection conditional on you “feeding” their ego?

4. Next Steps for Your Well-Being

   
   • Set clear, consistent boundaries (“I won’t tolerate being shouted at.”)
   • Seek support from friends, support groups, or a counselor
   • Practice self-care: sleep, nutrition, hobbies, social time
   • Learn assertive communication (“When you do X, I feel Y.”)

5. When to Consider Professional Help

   
   • You feel constantly anxious, depressed, or exhausted
   • Boundaries repeatedly get ignored or violated
   • Family life or work performance is suffering
   • You want tools to cope—or to help your loved one seek change

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

At Purple Sky Counseling, we specialize in relationship dynamics and personality challenges. Whether you need support setting boundaries or want to encourage your loved one toward therapy, our compassionate team can guide you.

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